There have been a lot, lol! My journey started 9 years ago in late 2017. I worked in Big Tech in Finance in San Francisco, a few months out of a long and expensive MBA. A few months into this new job, I got real sick real fast. I didn’t know it at the time, but I went through a full crash burnout that led to spending 4 days a week for 3 months at the doctor’s office. I had 26 different diagnoses because no one knew what was going on. Very quickly, with no light at the end of the tunnel from a lack of answers, I became even sicker, depressed, and suicidal. I was put on disability leave from work and driving suspension since I hit a guy on the freeway at 70mph (he was fine because I snapped out of it).

My only option then was to go to the Kaiser Chronic Pain Clinic. I had to quit all addictions to join and, at the time, I was smoking 1.5 packs of Marlboro Red Cigarettes per day! And so, I learnt the power of leverage and the subconscious mind – in a moment, I quit a 15-year habit of smoking. I had no choice, no other way out! I didn’t know it then, but that was one of the biggest moments of my life and part of what led me to this point of working with the subconscious mind.

Over the last 9 years, I have quit toxic jobs, left corporate America, and did so much deep healing for myself, my family, and more. I have worked on my own visibility wounds and released my own biggest fears and channeled all of that into my work and my clients along the way.

I’ve done deep, deep healing on experiences in childhood and adulthood from sexual assault to losing my dad as a teen to major car accidents to toxic relationships to forgiving my mom to losing friendships to seeing every single person and experience as a gift and a blessing.

I realized that every single experience was always meant to happen to me and for me so that I could do the work that I do now. I was always supposed to be the one to create a deeply safe and resonant healing container for women to release their deepest blocks, fears, and traumas so they can live their dream lives!

Who inspired you when you first started on this journey?

In my earliest days, Jay Shetty and Brene Brown were a huge inspiration. The beginning of my journey started with chronic pain and an autoimmune condition, and I experienced a lot of trouble with the traditional medical system. As I learnt more and tried everything, I learnt the impact of chronic stress and our emotions on the body – how it all resulted in higher cortisol and stuck emotions and trauma in the body. That’s when I started looking at meditation and mindfulness and discovered Jay Shetty. His voice was so calming on the Calm App and years later when I became a coach, I took his certification!

Brene Brown’s books on shame, vulnerability, and labeling different emotions was life-changing. It engaged different parts of my brain, using research and data (which my left brain needed at the time) to help me build awareness of the anger, shame, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, etc, that I felt. It was raw, vulnerable, and extremely enlightening about my emotional home, ie the core emotions I felt the most often at the time.

As they say, the first step to healing is awareness. I built a lot of awareness very quickly through these authors and role models!

What were three of your favorite books that helped you get clear on your path?

Set Boundaries, Find Peace – Nedra Glover

Daring Greatly – Brene Brown

Worthy – Jamie Kern Lima

What are some ways you manage work life balance?

To be honest, as an entrepreneur, I work more now than I ever have before. And I love every moment of it. I truly believe that the first thing is to find and do work that feels purpose-full, like alignment. And this doesn’t have to mean changing careers, but it could mean finding and honing in on a part of your work that channels that energy. For example, in the past in corporate, I loved leading and mentoring a team, and it led to so much massive self development for me – teaching me how to lead, listen to different opinions, release micromanagement and perfectionism, give constructive feedback, etc.

Secondly, I think overall balance is just a myth. For me, personally, I love having sprints and getting into deep flow states, and then have a massive slow-down period and softening or even fully disconnecting. I actually do a retreat (just did a week-long plant medicine one), silent retreats, or even a week in Hawaii every year and go fully offline. I set expectations with my assistant, clients, and more on when exactly I will be online and offline, and 100% stick to it.

Thirdly, I have a core concept I love: “masculine structure for feminine flow”. This is all about setting up operations, structure, formats, templates, playbooks, etc, at one time so that you can do the work up front and then it brings more ease!

Finally, I spend a lot of time each week on little activities a few hours at a time – sauna, beach time, live music, dinner with friends, personal development, etc.

Where do you live now and is this your dream location and why?

I currently live in Los Angeles, close to Venice Beach. I recently sold my home to have more life and financial freedom and have moved into what we lovingly refer to as “The Goddess Temple”. Where I live now, the city, and this home are everything for my life stage!

I love being the woo woo girly but also being very left-brained. I love being able to burrow into my bed in a safe container at any time or play with my crystals and sound bowls and hang out reading in the hammock outside. I love the beach for walks and sunsets. I love having a Sunday hiking ritual. I love being able to observe that I am feeling stuck and need to go to my healer or shaman or to a sound bath or to an esctatic dance and always have them at my fingertips. And I love being able to host full moon circles and sound baths at the beach and incorporate the waves and the elements in my events. I love being gluten free, dairy free, soy free, and always having so many options. And I love the friendships and community I have built and continue to grow – I have never felt as much of a sense of belonging as I do at this point in my life, and that is everything.

How have your travels impacted inspired your life and or work perspective?

The biggest part of the work I do is helping women de-program and de-condition themselves from a lifetime of cultural, societal, and familial beliefs so that they can become their most authentic selves and live their destinies! And the reason I have been so pulled to this work is my own identity and experience growing up in a country where the beliefs were strong, being the good girl was key, religion and family had a strong pull, and nothing mattered more than what people thought of you/how you were perceived. And then moving from there to New York only a few years after 9/11 and living with a different set of beliefs and accent and everything in between.

And then adding on to that the travel – I currently average about 16-19 trips a year for the last several years and grew up traveling to places like Dubai, Asia, and South East Asia. As an adult, I’ve had the privilege of being to the UK, Africa, and am on a 5-week training trip in Europe as I write this.

And with every passing trip, I meet people from different parts of the world – with different beliefs, values, experiences, languages. I see the parts of the world where people have little to no money and are the most generous people I have ever met. I see how natural disasters from tsunamis to war to fires break people apart but bring community together in a way that heals every part of you! I see the impact of nuclear families in Black, Brown, and Hawaiian communities on girls – from being amazing to also resulting in 10x higher likelihood of sexual assault.

All of this deeply impacts the work that I do because I deeply recognize the importance of how a body of experiences and memories impact the very fabric of our identity and thus the masks we wear. And my job is truly to create a safe enough container to give women the permission to slowly de-layer and unmask so they can be raw, vulnerable, and deeply, authentically themselves!

Where did you spend most of your childhood?

I’m Pakistani – grew up in Karachi and then have lived in the States between New York, LA, San Francisco, and even a brief 6-month stint in Bali! All these places heavily influenced me and my journey to become me.

Growing up though – the 3 areas I remember spending the most time at:

• Best friends’/family friends’ homes making prank calls and dancing to the macarena and whatever was on the radio
• Traveling family style with all our family friends in a 32-seater van through beaches and hills in Malaysia, Thailand, and Singapore
• Volunteering on Saturdays at the non-profit shelter for women and kids on the autism spectrum

Are you involved with any local or online communities that inspire or support you personally or in your work?

I am in a ton of communities online and offline in LA, and they all bring me a little something. Communities are life-changing – they show you that you are not alone. That you are different and unique and that you don’t have to fit in but that, as humans, a lot of our problems are the same. And that in itself gives a sense of belonging!

My big mission is to be the Tony Robbins for women and women of color. There are just so many beliefs, blocks, patterns, experiences, and more that are just so individual for us. So, Tony Robbin’s community has been a big part of my life for the past 1.5-2 years. To see someone create this beautiful community with so much impact and to have such an open heart while doing it all has been so inspirational!

I am also part of a Women’s Connection Hour community in LA that I love. Just seeing these different women coming together, honoring each other, and their work. Sharing, creating, and wanting to support each other in our businesses has been amazing!

 Women working together is quite literally unstoppable!

Tell us about your current or past pets and what they mean to you in your daily life.

I will say that I wasn’t the hugest pet person, and this could get me canceled haha. I used to have a sweet fluffly dog named – you guessed it – Fluffy. I loved her, but I was super scared of her!! I do love dogs now and can’t wait to get one when I have a family so we can all care for her together, and I love the relationships between dogs and babies! I am a pisces and a huge water person, so I love all things marine from dolphins (super geniuses) to sharkies to little fishies and everything in between! Never had them as a pet lol – I hope they live freely forever and ever!

What are your favorite three movies of all time and why?

I will say I like movies, but I am definitely a TV show person more (and clearly a rebel hahah). I love TV shows because I love the storyline and the continuity. It allows me to connect so deeply to characters and invest in them. It also allows me to truly connect and get quite emotional watching shows – it’s actually a great resource! So many of us have gotten so disconnected from ourselves and our emotions, and shows or movies are a great way to start to reconnect to the parts of us that cry, laugh, get emotional.

Shows currently on repeat – Nostalgia girly:

Gilmore Girls: Funny, silly, and everything in between

One Tree Hill: I love seeing the character development +++ it’s pretty cool to see how there are good, emotional, vulnerable men out there too.

Greys Anatomy: Again, love the character development, but also there is always some insane thing or event or natural disaster at the end of each season. And seeing that and how they come together and support each other through it tugs at the heart strings!

What are your morning practices and routines that set you up to win every day?

My practices have been changing based on what my needs are, but these are what are currently in my life!

Morning: My morning practices have changed a lot this year since I chose to prioritize the slow, soft girl life. I intuitively do what I need at the time and the length of the practice depends on what I have going on, but this is my current morning. It’s always a combination of mind + body + spirit + manifestation.

Body: Morning sunlight walk for 10 minutes + qi gong to move the energy

Mind: Silent meditation + gratitude + journaling

Spirit: Womb healing or reiki self-healing

Manifestation: Timeline jumping visualization or priming practice

Evening: Hypnosis! Hypnosis! Hypnosis! Every night I start my evening with a slowing down ritual with dim lighting, red light glasses, a book of the week, epsom salt baths, journaling, and my favorite candle to unwind! I then move into Hypnosis audio to help me rewire the thing I need to work on that day!! I have a ton of other practices I do based on what I need then, but these are my core practices!

Sleep: Subliminals that I recorded for myself and will do as a giveaway for the retreat! Subliminals are the best way to rewire your mind while you are sleeping! Subliminals are using affirmations to neuro-recondition your brain while repeating the affirmations 900-1000x per hour alongside multi-layered high frequency and theta brain wave state music. Gamechanger!!! My current nightly playlist includes: Millionaire Goddess, Divine Feminine Energy, Magnetic Self

What are you passionate about that most people don’t know?

Healing and personal development – I live it and love it every day!

All things water – I will do anything from swim with sharks to jump off a literal cliff.